A young man approached a Zen master pleading for help with his anger problem. “I have a quick temper, and it’s damaging my relationships,” the young man said.
“I’d love to help,” said the Zen master. “Can you demonstrate your quick temper to me?”
“Not right now. It happens suddenly,” the young man replied.
“Then what is the problem?” asked the Zen master. “If it were a part of your true nature, it would be present all the time. Something that comes and goes is not a part of you, and you shouldn’t concern yourself with it.”
The man nodded in understanding and went on his way. Soon afterwards, he was able to become aware of his temper, thus controlling it and repairing his damaged relationships.